Step number one - get in touch with those negative feelings identify them. Step two - understand that those feelings are in you in the me not in the external world, not in other people. Step three - never identify the eye with those feelings. Feelings come and go, just as I am not mu thoughts, I am not my body cells, I am not my clothes, I am not my name, I am not my profession, I am not these feelings, I am not depressed. Depression exists right now there within me i observe it I watch it and let it be. Stop trying to fix it let it be it's all right.

When somebody insults you, you're not getting upset. When the letter isn't received it's sent back to the air to the man who wrote it or the woman who wrote it. You don't receive it it goes back. Why you got upset be the insult? because you took it! That's why. Silly.

Be aware and watch your thoughts, feelings and emotions. Because what you can observe is not where you are, it's outside of you, it's at a distance, it's not you.

Write down you thoughts and emotions on a piece of paper to get them out of you, then just burn that paper in fire.

Your mind is like a top of the tree, swinging from side to side during the storm. Concentrate on your breath, the trunk and roots by practising mindful breathing, to embrace and survive these strong emotions.

Our anger often stems from problems in our childhood, from the problems of our parents which stem from their own childhood, on and on. Our anger also has roots in the many interactions with others, the accumulated disappointments and heartaches that we have suffered. An individual will often appear as the instigator of our anger but it is much more complicated, goes far beyond what that individual did to us. If a person explodes with anger at you (and it seems out of proportion to what you did to them), you must remind yourself that it is not exclusively directed at you - do not be so vain. The cause is much larger, goes way back in time, involves dozen of prior hurts, and is actually not worth the bother to understand. Instead of seeing it as a personal grudge, look at the emotional outburst as a disguised power move, an attempt to control or punish you cloaked in the form of hurt feelings and anger.

It's not bad to have aggressive or hostile thoughts and feelings towards others. When you acknowledge these feelings you no longer have to pretend to be that which you are not. You can learn to accept these moods. What is bad, however, is letting them dictate your nature. When you unleash your aggression or hostility on another person, it inspires aggression and hostility in return. The result then is conflict, which all true martial artists try to avoid. Anger doesn't demand action. When you act in anger, you lose self-control. How can you expect to control someone else if you cannot control yourself?

The mind is like a fertile garden, it will grow anything you wish to plant - beautiful flowers or weeds. And so it is with successful, healthy thoughts or with negative ones that will, like weeds, strangle and crowd the others. Do not allow negative thoughts to enter your mind for they are the weeds that strangle confidence. ... When such a thought enters my mind, I visualize it as being written on a piece of paper. Then I visualize myself wadding the paper up into a tight ball. Then I mentally light it on fire and visualize it burning to a crisp. The negative thought is destroyed, never to enter my mind again.

Morpheus: You are angry with me.
Neo: I, uh... maybe.
Morpheus: It's all right. It's natural.
Neo: I feel better.
Morpheus: Good, good. Anger is a gift, Neo, but it's a heavy one.