Teaching someone how, and when, to associate or disassociate, is one of the most profound and pervasive ways to change the quality of a person's experience, and the behavior that results from it.

Some people tend to always disassociate. These are the scientist/engineer types who are often described as "objective," "detached," or "distant." You can teach them how to associate when they want to, and regain some feeling connection with their experience.

It's only that growing sense of curiosity that allows you to capture the enthusiasm that makes even the most mundane, or the most fascinating task worthwhile, fun, and intriguing. Without that, life is nothing more than waiting in line.

To attain the ecstasy of borderless unity, which is our natural state, all you need to do is live the guideline that all human experience is generated from within - either with the support of external stimuli or without.

Try tо оbserve іn yоurself the kіnd оf emоtіоns thаt yоu hаve а tendenсy tо remember. We аll hаve memоrіes. Whаt kіnd оf eхрerіenсes dо yоu tend tо remember? Аnd remember аlsо thаt whаtever memоrіes yоu hаve оf the раst, yоu аre рlаntіng these аs seeds fоr the future аnd yоu wіll reар the sаme eхрerіenсes іn the future. Yоur memоrіes оf the раst раve the wаy fоr the future.

Sо fоr twenty-fоur hоurs а dаy try tо remember thоse mоments іn yоur lіfe thаt hаve been mаgісаl аnd sасred. Reсаll thоse few mоments аnd try tо mаke them the fоundаtіоn оf yоur lіfe. Аnd try tо fоrget even the lоng рerіоds оf раіn, sоrrоw, hаtred аnd vіоlenсe, they dоn't hаve аny vаlue. Let them fаde аwаy. Just lіke the dry leаves fаll frоm the trees, let gо оf аll thаt іs оf nо vаlue аnd соnsсіоusly gо оn gаtherіng аll thаt іs meаnіngful аnd аlіve. Thіs рrосess shоuld gо оn соntіnuоusly. There shоuld be а flоw оf рure, beаutіful thоughts іn yоur mіnd, full оf lоve аnd hарріness.

There is s оnly оne саuse fоr аll yоur mіsery, аnd thаt іs yоur іdentіfісаtіоn wіth the bоdy. Аnd there іs аlsо оnly оne саuse fоr hарріness, аnd thаt іs thаt yоur іdentіfісаtіоn wіth the bоdy breаks аnd yоu beсоme аwаre thаt yоu аre nоt the bоdy.

The оnly need fоr the sоul tо dіssоlve іntо the dіvіne іs thаt lіfe саn never be fulfіlled thrоugh раіn аnd sufferіng. Іn оther wоrds, sufferіng іs аlwаys unассeрtаble tо lіfe. Lіfe аlwаys desires blіss. Аnd tо suffer іs tо be seраrаte frоm the dіvіne. When yоu beсоme оne wіth the dіvіne, lіfe beсоmes blіss.

The dаy yоu hаve nо needs, there wіll nо lоnger be аny need tо be оne wіth the dіvіne - yоu wіll hаve beсоme the dіvіne.

Conditions are always changing, and real peace lies in the ability to adapt to the changes.

Ultimately, happiness comes down to choosing between the discomfort of becoming aware of your mental afflictions and the discomfort of being ruled by them.

Happiness is a byproduct of function, purpose, and conflict; those who seek happiness for itself seek victory without war.

Since your attention has been turned outside, you find misery. Now turn back the attention inside yourself and discover that you are already happy.

Research within the positive psychology field shows there is only one experience in life that increases happiness over a long time. It's not money, above a base survival amount. It's not health, nor is it marriage or having children. The one thing that makes people happy is the quality and quantity of their social connections.

They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for.

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.

The psychological immune system works best when we are totally stuck, when we are trapped. This is the difference between dating and marriage. You go out on a date with a guy, and he picks his nose; you don't go out on another date. You're married to a guy and he picks his nose? He has a heart of gold. Don't touch the fruitcake! You find a way to be happy with what's happened.

Pleasure is, and must remain, a side-effect of by-product, and is destroyed and spoiled to the degree to which it is made a goal in itself.

To the European, it is a characteristic of the American culture that, again and again, one is commanded and ordered to "be happy". But happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue. One must have a reason to "be happy". Once the reason is found, however, one becomes happy automatically. As we see, a human being is not one in pursuit of happiness but rather in search of a reason to become happy, last but not least, through actualizing the potential meaning inherent and dormant in a given situation. This need for a reason is similar in another specifically human phenomenon - laughter. If you want anyone to laugh you have to provide him with a reason, e.g., you have to tell him a joke. In no way is it possible to evoke real laughter by urging him, or having him urge himself, to laugh. Doing so would be the same as urging people posed in front of a camera to say "cheese,", only to find that in the finished photographs their faces are frozen in artificial smiles.

Only when the emotions work in terms of values can the individual feel pure "joy." This is the explanation of why joy can never be an end in itself; it itself, as joy, cannot bu purposed as a goal. How well Kierkegaard expressed this in his maxim that the door to happiness opens outward. Anyone who tries to push this door open thereby causes it to close still more.

For the uncontrolled there is no wisdom, nor for the uncontrolled is there the power of concentration; and for him without concentration there is no peace. And for the unpeaceful, how can there be happiness?

Human happiness is attained only through doing what the organism was built to do, in an environment that is favorable.

Every individual owes it to himself to find the right work and the right mate, because these are fundamental needs of every human being. Lacking them, life is a failure; possessing but one of them, life is half a failure.

Joy, then, is what we experience in the process of growing nearer to the goal of becoming ourself.

There is only one possible, productive solution for the relationship of individualized man with the world: his active solidarity with all men and his spontaneous activity, love work, which unite him again with the world, not by primary ties but as a free and independent individual.

If you want to be happy, be.

You'll have a good, secure life when being alive means more to you than security, love more than money, your freedom more than public or partisan opinion; when the mood of Beethoven's or Bach's music becomes the mood of your whole life - you have it in you, little man, somewhere deep down in a corner of your being; when your thinking is in harmony, and no longer in conflict, with your feelings; when you've learned to recognize two things in their season: your gifts and the onset of old age; when you let yourself be guided by the thoughts of great sages and no longer by the crimes of great warriors; when you cease to set more store by the a marriage certificate than by love between man and woman; when you learn to recognize your errors promptly and not too late, as you do today; when you pay the men and women who teach your children better than politicians; when truths inspire you and empty formulas repel you; when you communicate with your fellow workers in foreign countries directly, and no longer through diplomats; when instead of enraging you as it does today, your adolescent daughter's happiness in love makes your heart swell with joy; when you can only shake your head at the memory of the days when small children were punished for touching their sex organs; when the human faces you see on the street are no longer drawn with grief and misery but glow with freedom, vitality, and serenity; when human bodies cease to walk this earth with rigid, retracted pelvises and frozen sex organs.